Change habits, not your goals

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Do you know what characterises successful people?

Their habits… Yes, they have learnt to create good/positive habits which require discipline, perseverance and patience. But as the examples show, it pays off in the end.

If your life is happy, well balanced and in harmony, and if your mind is at peace, you are healthy,  feel good in your skin and your relationships are working well,  stop reading this because you are probably doing things well in life

However, if you are not satisfied with what you are experiencing in life right now or not going in the desired direction, you need to admit,   to carry on this way means the results will be the same. Thus, you will most likely not achieve the goal you have set yourself as planned. 

What I am saying is that it is so critical that you change your habits, the way how you have been doing things. As opposed to changing the goal.

We are all different when it comes to changing habits. Some people, more than others, find it easier to change how they approach life and change of behaviours. And, in fact, some habits are more difficult to change than others. Countless research studies have shown that in order to get used to a new habit (to integrate it into our life, to love it and miss if it were gone) approximately 18-254 days are needed. This may hold you back first, but remember, you form some habits to change your life and some for a lifetime.  

There are three phases  of creating a new habit:


Honeymoon period:

The period of the formulation of new habits. Here we have got the momentum, the zest and enthusiasm. And our plans seem easy and achievable.


Dull weekdays period:

Motivation may be lower at this point and we start finding excuses. The need to maintain a new habit can become a burden. The old habits suddenly seem easier and we are tempted to go back to our old ways. This is the most critical period in the creation of a new habit. It’s a good 8dea to have someone around to show support with overcoming the obstacles. If there isn’t anyone there to support you,  I suggest you keep telling yourself: I am strong, persistent, and I can do it!

Ask yourself: Why do I exactly want this new habit? How will my life be better with my new habit? What do I lose if I go back to the old ways?  Why do I struggle to maintain the new habit?

Find answers to these questions, improve your self-awareness and increase your resilience on the way.  It all helps you to overcome the difficulties of changing your habits and increases your inner strength.

Imagine what your life will be like in 5 years time. Take a look at what you can expect if you return to your old habits. Also, consider how much better it will be to hold on and keep your new habit. 

Happens like clockwork:

If you get past the previous phase, you get closer to your goal. The fills you up to new momentum fills you up with positive experiences and increased confidence and satisfaction.  Notice the improvement and use it to fuel your motivation.

I’m not going to lie to you, you must be committed to creating good habits and especially sticking to them, and even if you sometimes give up, it is worth to pick up the pieces and go from there again because it pays off in the end.

Bonus Article: 5 tips to succesfully change your habits

Click to the link to learn Why setting a goal is important or here are some Tips how track your goals

Featured Photo by Robert V. Ruggiero on Unsplash

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Susanna Magera

Susanna Magera

Susanna believes in lifelong learning and feels on the top of the world when she can help others achieve their goals.

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