Building Self-Confidence – The Benefits of Believing in Yourself

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Building self-confidence can have a magical effect on your life, it helps you to shine and enables your personal growth. Read on to see what benefits believing in yourself brings to you.

Have you ever set out to achieve something, big or small, and heard a voice in your head telling you how terribly you will fail? Or do you sometimes think you are not good enough and you just cannot do it? Many people have had experience with this voice. It is self-doubt. This taunting voice beats you into a corner when you want to stand up to the high winds of challenges in life. All it does is criticize you and make you feel worthless.

The greedy nature of self-doubt ensures it sweeps clean all confidence, logic, and reason from your mind. It leaves you with unhappiness and depression. Fear and insecurity occupy your mind. However, that should not be the case. Honoré de Balzac couldn’t have been more correct when he said that, when you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt. The best you can do for yourself, with the help of self-knowledge, is believing in yourself and keep building self-confidence.

The good news is that the voice is made up in your mind, and there are ways to control it, rather than shutting it down completely. Failure to do this will plunge you into the ditch of fear, anxiety, and insecurity, and it is the last place you want to find yourself since you will feel like you have little to be worth living for. Paralysis, physical and emotional, may also ensue.

The Benefits of Believing in Yourself

Resources, intelligence, and opportunity may contribute to the success of an individual. Still, when you look deep down into the core of the prosperity of successful people, you will find they started by believing in themselves.

Why would you believe in yourself? If you don’t, no one will!

Putting it simply, if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will. If you want your boss to recognize your performance, you must clearly represent the qualities expected of you. If you’re going to convince investors to put their money into your business, you must show beyond doubt that you have a firm conviction that your strategy will work.

Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is an important attribute, especially when faced with challenges in life. Click to learn more about What does it take to be confident?

One sure way of ensuring you will dig deep and stand firm is believing in yourself; the belief that comes from within enables you to face any challenge without succumbing to fear. If you feel that your self-esteem is in ruins, you may start with something small and begin building self-confidence in tiny steps. Believe in your capability to speak up at the next meeting. Have faith in it so firmly that you see yourself speaking and providing input. You already know the topic of the discussion. Prepare yourself, think about potential questions, and the opportunity will manifest itself.

A Step Closer to Achieving Your Goal

It is crucial to find a way to shut down the inner voice that would tell you how big and unachievable your goal is. You don’t want to be afraid to take steps towards success due to insecurity or self-doubt. Believing in yourself is one of the surest ways to make big strides towards the goal you have been chasing for a while now. You only need a positive attitude and thinking to realize it will take you time and effort to achieve your target and keep building your self-confidence, but you will achieve it and shine. Learning more about The psychology of positive thinking is a good starting point.

It’s an inspiration

When you believe in yourself, you give yourself the motivation to work harder every day to move forward and go for what you desire. In the wake of difficulties or even setbacks, you cannot afford to stop, no excuses, you have to be consistent. Self-doubt is the crusher of big dreams many people have in life. You need the driving force to make it in life, and inspiration is a significant boost to get you motivated.

Gives the realization that mistakes are part of the process

Anyone telling you that you will always have a smooth ride in life towards your goal is lying. Failure is bound to attack when you think you have gotten to the level ground. The last thing you want to have by your side is self-doubt. It will make you believe that all is gone, and there is nothing more to do. However, when you build your self-confidence and believe in yourself, it will make you realize that, once you fail, you’d better stand up, dust off, and move on because that is what the journey of life is about.

It gives you a positive attitude

Winston Churchill once said attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. He was right. When you let negative thoughts flood your mind all the time, achieving your goal will be difficult. It is self-belief that makes you have the right attitude towards success.

Regaining your self-belief

Maybe you have lost the belief in yourself that we have discussed in this article, and you are wondering how you can get your self-belief back. All is not lost. You can regain your confidence and become successful in life. The following are ways in which you can start believing in yourself again and contribute to building self-confidence.

Avoid people who bring you down

You have more than likely come across individuals who believe everything is impossible or so complicated that it is not worth the effort. These are the people you must avoid at all costs. They will do nothing less than shoot down your ideas when you come up with them, making you develop self-doubt and insecurity. Follow the link to see How do people drag you down?

Identify your doubts

What are the things you think you cannot achieve in life? Why do you think you cannot reach them? Identifying what you think you are not good at is a sure-fire way to overcome fears and doubt and take the first steps in building self-confidence.

Count your achievements

One way to boost your self-confidence when you feel down is to count and celebrate your results and accomplishments, even the smallest ones. It is the time when the usual pep talk does not cut it. Get a pen and pencil, and list your successes one by one. Having someone tell you what you have achieved over the years is also an excellent way to increase your confidence.

Love and trust yourself

What people with self-doubt lack is self-love and trust. These two make you understand that the cause of action you take is the right one, and nothing will ever stop you from achieving your best and believing in yourself. Let’s get building self-confidence; you deserve it!

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How do people drag you down?

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People in your environment can drag you down in many ways. You may remember your mom telling you that your friend was trouble and you should have known better than hanging out with him or her. Truth to be told, being with friends who always look for and find trouble is not the only way to be dragged down.

Your energy level changes frequently throughout the day. Depending on what you do and who you are talking to, you may feel great and inspired at the end of the day, or you may feel tired by the end of a meeting. I am sure you know what I am talking about. Who didn’t hear about energy vampires? But I don’t want to talk about energy vampires today. How do people drag you down?

I’d instead talk about people, even in your immediate environment, who you wouldn’t consider as energy vampires. People who merely by telling their opinion or giving you feedback can set your mood and negatively influence your self-confidence. It sounds scary, doesn’t it? 

You can read more things that might hold you back here.

It is somewhat troubling. We have power over each other. Of course, others will have control over you only in case you let them have it.

You may have a friend, who you have known for ages, and you love, and suddenly things just don’t click the same way they did in the past.
Your friend probably hit a rough patch, and you may or may not know about it, but your friend’s negativity leaves its mark on your life, too.

  • When you have a success you can’t wait to share and meet your bitter friend who finds your success only temporary.
  • When you get a fantastic opportunity which your friend suddenly finds suspicious.

Unless you are very conscious about your friend’s situation and can remember how her or his balanced views helped you before or how different the negativity you experience from your friend is, you may find yourself trying to find out why that particular opportunity wouldn’t work for you or why was your success in fact a failure, without you recognising it.

You can also think about a colleague who shares a job with you and even though you both rely on each other’s efforts and work, this colleague doesn’t seem to care as much as you do. Your colleague, for whatever reason, doesn’t finish the report on time or forgets to send out an important email.
May not be much work to do anyway but if you have to do it instead of this colleague repeatedly, it becomes annoying. Or if you receive negative feedback as a consequence of your colleague’s mistake, it feels off-putting. Mainly because you now form a team and share the success and the responsibility, too.

So, what can you do?

Your plan of action will depend on why your colleague neglects his or her responsibilities.

Don’t be harsh; your colleague may struggle with problems in the family or illness. He or she may be stressed out because of other responsibilities or may already be overloaded with conflicting priorities. Think about the environment you both work in and make your first step accordingly.

Naturally, if you find that your colleague has all the opportunity to deliver on his or her promises, you may schedule a meeting where you can share your thoughts and views about the situation.

Many times, we don’t want to be the bad guys and let others get away with things that annoy us. That might work out for a while, but the time will come when you feel you had enough. Believe me, it is better to have that discussion before you reached the point of no return. Generally, there are meny benefits of believing of yourself. Read more here.

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How do women do business?

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Today I can proudly say, that damn right I put more emotion and passion in business. Just differently. Business, small business and large multinational businesses are built on passion; the passion of the founder and the passion and dedication of the people in that business. How else would you deliver something better every single day?

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Women in business. Interesting topic, isn’t it? I love it.

Some believe business is the domain of men and even though the number of women in various areas of business has increased over the last decade, there is still room for improvement.

I have built three companies so far and can confidently say all the businesses had a woman’s touch.

What is a woman’s touch exactly?

I have recently heard an interview with a property mogul, who explained that in his opinion women go deeper into the details to understand the whole process and the steps in it.

Based on my experience, I can certainly confirm that.

For better or worse, I like to understand what is happening in the process. I say for better or worse because going too deep takes precious time and I had to learn to be satisfied with the interpretation of critical metrics in my businesses. It was a learning curve for me to understand that my efforts to become knowledgeable about every teeny-tiny step in a process was merely my way of handling uncertainties and insecurities. I thought knowing all about it would make me more confident. It helped some, for sure, but it didn’t make the difference you would believe.

What made the real difference was to select excellent people and work with great suppliers. The ones who know their job and do their job.

I also understood from the interview that this property mogul thought women put more emotions and passion in business. Comments similar to that haunted me for years.

Male executives dominate the side of my business where we deal with business transformations; and I heard such comments, not once.

The problem wasn’t the comment itself but how I interpreted it. Whatever those men meant to say when they made such a comment, I believed it had a negative meaning. Also, I wasn’t the only one.

Today, I can proudly say, that damn right I put more emotion and passion in it. 

Just differently. Business; small business or large multinational businesses are built on passion; the passion of the founder and the passion and dedication of the people in that business. How else would you deliver something better every single day?

Being passionate is a good thing, as long as it drives forward the business. I believe the problems start when fear creeps in, lack of self-confidence creeps in, question marks queue in your mind every single day, and doubts build up. I make no mistake, it happens, you cannot avoid it from happening.

Putting more emotion in the business is not wrong, it is just different. Women and men are different, and therefore they do business differently. Previously, I didn’t do research on how women do business, but I know how I do it. I put compassion in it, and I am well aware of that. Furthermore, I know that my thoughts drive my emotions and see the difference between an opinion formulated based on feeling and a hard fact. So this is precisely why I think it is fantastic that women build businesses differently than men do.

The world is changing. Technology cuts through the fabric of business and society; people want to be connected more than ever, the level of self-awareness is increasing, people stay with companies who demonstrate social responsibility. We get closer to the balance of heart and mind every single day. Women doing business is a part of this evolution. I am fortunate to be a part of this evolution.
For more inspiration read the following article Inspiration for women who want to achieve more.