3 Methods successful women follow to keep their career on track

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We bring many habits and beliefs from our childhood, but it would be a mistake to believe that only those beliefs influence us, even at later stages in our lives. There are good practices we can learn from successful women who already made it.

 

 

Also worth to check these 9 Ways to improve your self-discipline.

Some grow up in a family where setting goals is a natural part of kids’ lives from their early age, while other parents let their kids discover the way of planning their life and tasks on their own. One method may work as good as the other.

We bring many habits and beliefs from our childhood, but it would be a mistake to believe that only those beliefs influence us, even at later stages in our lives. There are good practices we can learn from women who already made it.
Let’s see a couple of examples:

Plan your life as you would plan a project in your work.

When you are working on a project in your job, you need to plan resources, assess risks, consider limitations and make sure the project is going to deliver the benefits you or your stakeholders expect.

  • Why would you accept anything less?
  • Why would you care any less when it comes to your life?

If you think about your career as a journey from the “Where have you been” through the “Where you are at the moment” on your way to the “Where you should be”, you are going to focus on what positions, tasks, experiences and skills take you there. And that is precisely the focus you need.

Fear not to say no

Over your lifetime many opportunities will come your way. Some will look particularly great, while others you need to let go.

You heard the word “no” many times in your life but when it comes to saying it to someone else, especially to a person who may be able to influence how your career develops, saying no might not be the most natural thing to do. We are all inclined to say yes now and then; when we should say no.

Think about it that way, every time you say yes when you should say no, you take time and opportunity away from yourself. Every time you say no you create space for something that works for you better.

Work with mentors

Setting goals is easy when you have a clear idea of what you want and a sense of purpose, but it becomes slightly fuzzy when you are not sure what direction to take. If you are in this situation right now, just know that you are not alone. Many people, at some point in their lives, will reach a turning point when they realise they have to change their ways.

Our parents or grandparents had probably worked for the same company for decades, while changes these days are constant in the majority of business sectors; and professionals need to adopt new practices more often than not. Whenever a change, affecting your career progress happens, it also creates an opportunity to think about your life overall.

In the middle of changes and the daily grind, your ability to see the bigger picture is different, and it is advised that you find a mentor who either had a similar situation in her or his life or has already achieved what you want to accomplish.

Ways how self-awareness helps your career progress

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Why you are the best person to improve self-awareness

Some believe that self-awareness is the most important skill when it comes to building a successful professional career. On the other hands others may tell you that self-awareness is somewhat superficial, and you need to have a solid education and professional skills to make it in the world of work.

Even though there is an increasing number of articles and sources that provide you with information about self-awareness, it still might be slightly challenging to grasp the true meaning of it.

Finding a definition is quite easy but to understand how self-awareness works and more importantly how it helps your career progress may be a challenge.

Why is it a challenge?

I believe it is because understanding any concept is only the first step. Applying the knowledge and integrating habits that help self-growth can then follow.

First, let’s see what self-awareness is.

According to the Oxford Dictionaries, it is a “Conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires.”

After reading this definition, it is easier to understand how self-awareness affects career and career progress. Think about the time when you started your career and be very honest.

  • How much was your first job a conscious choice?
  • How much did you consider your strengths and weaknesses when you sent out your job applications for the first time?

Majority of young people try to grab a job opportunity as soon as they can to start their career. So, don’t feel bad if you were not super conscious about your career choices back then.

I think I am right to assume though that, with time, your choices have been more about taking advantage of your skills and talent. As you matured, you focused on building a career that gave you the opportunity to expand either vertically or horizontally. Whenever you switched jobs, you were looking for something else, a new challenge.

You listened to your motives and desires and shaped your job search accordingly.

While this was undoubtedly your self-awareness in motion, you may ask yourself a question whether there were or there are other areas where your self-awareness could give you a competitive edge. And the answer to this question is a definite yes.

Regardless of the industry you are working in, or your professional field, no work can be done alone without the support of and contribution from others. To get that, you need to have social skills and the foundation of all success in any social environment is self-awareness.

Let’s just see a couple of examples, think about your work environment and job.

  • What makes you feel stressed?
  • What leaves you feeling depleted?
  • How do you respond to authority?
  • With what type of leadership style do you work best together?
  • How do you deal with criticism?
  • What is your number one conflict resolution tactic?

This isn’t me, but what is me then?

From the above questions you can see that without being self-aware you are not able to answer such questionFurthermore, without being self-aware, your choices around which company or team to join may leave you with disappointment.

Just by answering these questions, you will have a clear picture of what environment you would like to work in. In addition, you will see what type of work gives you inspiration and satisfaction. No one else can make these choices for you and although getting paid is great but getting paid for a job you don’t enjoy may be miserable. Check these techniques to help advance your career.

So, even if you think self-awareness is not the most important thing when building your career, I am sure you agree that it has such a high impact that you cannot ignore developing it.

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The psychology of positive thinking

The psychology of positive thinking

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If you have ever applied for a job, you couldn’t avoid spotting positive thinking or positive mindset in the list of requirements. We all accept that having a positive outlook on life helps when it comes to facing everyday challenges even though we might not know precisely how positive thinking works.

So, what is positive thinking all about and how can you train your brain for it? Is glass-half-full way of thinking hardwired in us?

Beyond displaying a positive and upbeat attitude, positive thinking affects how we approach skills’ development and how we decide on allocating our resources to specific activities.

Researchers found that daily experiences of positive emotions, in fact, enable the build-up of useful resources and skills, while negative experiences may even paralyse the individual. It is not difficult to see that without motivation and inspiration your personal energy level is not the same. And experiencing difficulties without encouragement or support on a long-term eats up own energy and may lead to depression.

With a positive mindset, you approach difficulties with a higher level of confidence; in other words, you trust your ability to face the challenges that come your way successfully.

Positive thinking also influences how you explain past events and how you see the outcome of specific situations, what result you predict. Furthermore, a positive outlook on life often helps people see adverse events as atypical and temporary.

Does positive thinking equal to ignoring risks or potential limitations?

Are you fooling yourself? Certainly not.
It means that despite risks and difficulties you anticipate a positive outcome. You do that because you see those potential risks and challenges as opportunities or things you need to deal with in order to accomplish what you planned for yourself; instead of seeing them as roadblocks or showstoppers.

You may fool yourself, but the reason for that won’t be your positive mindset; instead, it would be that you are ignorant about crucial facts or potential dangers in a situation. Sometimes it may not be easy to distinguish between positive and wishful thinking.

If you follow wishful thinking, you form beliefs according to what might be pleasing to you instead of making decisions based on evidence and rational thought. Match your thinking to a perception that better reflects reality, and your positivity will be well-founded. You can use these 5 Ways to support your positive mindset.

Some say, convincing yourself that you will ace that presentation or job interview is basically lying to yourself. It might be unless you are entirely clear about the key messages of your presentation and you, or you prepared for that interview. While positive thinking will give you a great kick start, it is not going to solve the problem.

When wishful thinking is misinterpreted as positive thinking, come the comments about positivity being overrated. People disappointed with the outcomes because they expected something better might blame positive thinking for their unpleasant experience.

What are the benefits of a positive mindset? Let’s see a couple of those benefits:

  • Better health leading to a longer life
  • The ability to handle stress factors driving a more balanced and happier life
  • Better decision making leading to a more prosperous life
  • Healthy relationships

It seems positive thinking has its benefits when it is understood well, and your self-awareness supports it.

Next, I assume you would like to know how you can train your brain to have more positive thoughts. Here are a couple of tips for you.

  • When you are preparing to deal with a complicated matter, picture a positive outcome. In fact, picture several positive scenarios and think about what steps you should take to make one of the favourable situations happen.
  • When you expect that a challenge is coming your way, instead of thinking about the event itself, spend time thinking about the causes of that unpleasant event you predict, and the means you have to reduce the negative impact or to eliminate it altogether.
  • Fill your day with words that make you feel that you have control over your life and strength. Focus on words that suggest competence rather than the ones that indicate failure or mistakes.
  • Redirect your thought. If you remember, we were talking about how your energy level is affected by negative thoughts. You have the opportunity to choose your thoughts. Uplift yourself by concentrating on things that make you happy. Use this to achieve the mindset that enables you to take action. Once you are in action mode, focus on finding solutions to your primary problem.
  • Use positive words during the day. You may not tackle the ‘positive talk’ game right at the beginning but with practice, you will use more and more encouraging words and will feel how it affects your self-confidence.

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5 tips to successfully change your habit

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Tips to ingrain new habits quickly and successfully. Introducing a new habit is a challenge at any point in life with the practical tips in this article you can do it more effectively. Learn how to change your habit successfully!

Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution you want to keep, or whether you simply want to bring changes into your life, use these 5 tips we collected for you to successfully change your habit and ingrain a new behaviour.

1. Make it easy

Don’t overcomplicate it, just choose a goal you really want to achieve and write it down with a plan.

Be specific: answer simple questions like why do you want it, when, where, how, how much, and give details about the habit you’re going to change. Include what you think will be the positive impact on your life if you keep going with the habit.

2. Keep it simple

Focus on only ONE habit at a time and stick with it at least for 30 days. Start with small steps and spend even just a small amount of time a day on that specific activity.

Even if you’re extra busy or overwhelmed with your current life situation, we can all agree, it is absolutely possible to find at least 10-15 minutes for it per day.

3. Find a trigger

The best you can do is trigger the habit you want to form by activities you have already included in your daily routine.

Set implementation intention (‘if-then’ plans) and link the new habit with an existing one. For instance, if you’d like to meditate every day, you can aim for “When I wake up, I brush my teeth and then I meditate”. Use these 9 Ways to improve your self-discipline to support your habit changing progress.

4. Reward yourself

Celebrate every milestone, no matter how small it is. Rewarding yourself is great positive feedback, but the reward needs to be immediate. Learn more about The power of now and how you can harness it.

5. Be positive

Positive thinking helps you to maintain motivation, be confident about your success, and support you in sticking with the new habit. Keep trusting ‘you can do it’.

Various visualisation techniques help you to place yourself in ‘your destination’. Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Everyone can have a difficult day, so don’t give up if you weren’t successful; learn from your failure by figuring out the obstacles.

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How to combat our everyday challenges effectively

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It is as critical to face everyday challenges with dignity as to have the necessary tools for such a task if you are to tackle them effectively and emerge a victor.

No single human being leads a quiet, smooth and happy life that is devoid of stress factors, ills, or complications all through. Challenges form part of our human existence. They are ubiquitous and, in a unique way, help shape how we ought to deal with situations, appreciate what we can’t solve and, of course, handle issues and problems.
And, whether you like it or not, challenges will always be there, regardless of your financial situation, your age, gender or status in the society. But, if you choose to avoid them and run away, you will be doing perhaps the worst thing for yourself. Problems are to be faced, and not to be avoided. So, instead of running away or blaming someone, use the following techniques to combat them effectively. For encouragement check The power of now and how you can harness it.

A 4-step method of overcoming everyday challenges in life

Step #1: Identify the problem and state it clearly

One you decide to face the problem head-on, you must know what the problem is as well as its nature. Sure, you might be looking bold, but calm and raring to go, but you ought to know who your real “enemy” is. If you are at war with a problem that you don’t fully know, then you will not solve it well.
Therefore, stay calm and take your time to know and understand the problem. It is from the proper understanding of the issue that you will formulate the right goals, how you will work towards attaining them and perhaps stay on course once the journey starts.

Step #2: Gather your troops

Well, you have grounded yourself, and your heart is bubbling healthy even though you know that there’s a challenge ahead. Assuming that you have properly studied the problem, it is about time you gathered all your resources and identified your strengths and weaknesses. Experts advise that you make a comprehensive list of all that you will need. Among the things you will need to combat challenges are:

  • Materials and other tangibles
    Using books and magazines to digital resources, you can gather whatever is fit for resolving the issues you face. When you are aware that you don’t have enough resources, try to be patient and buy some time. Go right ahead with what is at your disposal or just adopt an alternative, perhaps more creative technique. It’s all about being intuitive, and some aspects of timing, too.
  • Personal skills and expertise
    Some say hard work beats talent. Work extra hard, hone your skills and polish that expertise, and you will overcome the issue. Be an expert in your field and don’t compromise on quality.
  • Collaboration
    You might be striving to fight the problem on your own, which is impressive. But with a larger group comprising different minds, talents, and energies, you will win with ease. Remember, to be successful you need not only others but also their support. After all, many hands make work easier.

Step #3: Come up with a working strategy

From the proverbial 5Ps – Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance, an effective strategy at hand means you are equipped to combat everyday challenges en route. Rack your brain, come up with a feasible strategy and execute it as efficiently as you can.
Formulating a fit for purpose strategy takes time because it needs evaluated information. You will be assessing yourself, much like you reviewing and knowing more about the nature of the challenge. But as you do so, don’t waste valuable time to grant the challenge to grow and develop, because resolving an issue of a greater complexity will require more resources and efforts from you.

Step #4: Implement the strategy

A fit for purpose working strategy isn’t necessarily the shiniest one, that is according to successful entrepreneurs who have had to wait for the successful working formula during the umpteenth time. So, don’t feel let down when the first, second and third plans don’t live up to your expectations. As you work towards reaching those goals and stay clear from the challenges, just remember that consistency is the key.
For some specific challenges, creativity, skill and intelligence are needed the most. But for others, timing paired with diligence and determination is the most profound requirements. In short, you must know what the challenge really is and how to utilize your resources to ensure a simple, glitch-free and successful completion.

But, you can’t make use of each of the four techniques if you lack the following virtues:

  • Calmness and composure
    Costly decisions often emerge from emotion-driven choices. In the midst of the challenges, stay calm and watch your thoughts.
  • Accept the reality
    Yes, everything seems to be going awry. Yes, no one appears to care and yes, you might look hopeless and miserable. BUT, the first way of fighting the everyday challenges, is accepting that indeed you are fighting a dire situation.
  • Don’t blame anyone
    Take full responsibility for the problems so that you can start the road to recovery in earnest.
  • Avoid the analysis paralysis
    Don’t spend too much time thinking about the problem. Neither should you spend a colossal amount of time checking the strategies. If you do so, frustrations and fears will kick in, and in the end, you will start blaming yourself more.
  • Focus on detachment
    Challenges will always be there, but when you choose to live with them, trust me, you’ll lead a happy life. Try to step out of the circle of problems, distance yourself and look at them from a different angle.

For some, challenges mark the end and lead to a miserable life, stress and depression. But for others, challenges aren’t baggage at all. They’re what spur creativity, offer a window of opportunity and a perfect launchpad for stardom. For more Techniques to overcome everyday challenges click here.
It depends on how you perceive the nature of the challenge and what lies beneath it. So, on which side are you?

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How to set goals you can achieve

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4-min read

Typical goal setting mistakes and how to fix them

Various sources, methods and even apps are available to support you if you decide to set goals for yourself.

Many of us set new goals in January each year and we all try to do our best to achieve those goals.

Somewhere along the way, after a couple of weeks or months these goals seem to fade away. You turn your attention to something else, which you believe, seems to be more important. Similar may happen to other goals you set during the year.

Why did you decide to place these goals in the back of the top shelf of your mind? Was their fate to be forgotten? Which goals prove to be long lasting and achievable? Where did it go wrong and what could you have done differently? Did you use the best app?

Let me share with you the common mistakes in goal setting, and these have very little to do with an app:

  • goals are set based on an impulse;
  • you think goal setting is like writing a daily to do list;
  • goals listed as you would prepare your shopping list;
  • you can only achieve your goal by doing something you really don’t fancy;
  • you think achieving the goal will sort out your life;
  • the goal is shiny and fantastic, and it is so far from you as the moon and the stars … but when you talk about it everyone admires you for having such a great adventure ahead of you;
  • you set a goal, because your friend(s) or significant other set the very same goal and by the way they are doing quite well in achieving it;
  • you can achieve the goal when sleeping, or standing on one leg, singing a song and juggle three apples at the same time.

Probably I could extend the list with a bit more effort, but I am sure, by now you understand, goal setting is about you. Your life and your future are in your hands, you are the director of your own movie. Therefore, anything goes wrong with goal setting is on you.

Devastating, I know…

On the other hand, it might just be good news. There is freedom in accepting you have control over your life and that comes with freedom to decide and act. For more inspiration click here.

Let’s take a look at these mistakes one by one. Learn from them, so that you can embrace your newly acquired set of opportunities.

Goals are set based on an impulse

New year resolutions, unless you built a habit of them, are good examples of such goal setting. However, you may experience this phenomenon when you buy a treadmill, because you saw an inspiring video. It convinced you running is the best option for you to lose weight.

You are setting a goal in a mood for changing things quickly and/or in a hopeful moment. On the other hand, don’t think about ways of achieving it or the activities and obligations coming with it. You try to stick with it, try your best to achieve it. At the end your schedule, work, other tasks or even your hobby may cross your way. Finally, the goal you want to achieve seems to require so much effort you can’t make.

Goals listed as items on a shopping list

Shopping lists are created in different ways, some like to sit down and think what is needed for the next couple of days or for the week. Others leave little notes about the items they need to replace, replenish in the household. Alternatively some just would like to add the most obvious items and add more items while shopping to allow some creativity and flexibility around shopping. The more practical you are with your shopping list is the better for your purse probably.

What is wrong with the shopping list type of goal setting?

Basically, you list things you would like to buy, rather than to achieve/earn and you think on a short term.

I give you an example, which is coming from one of my friends. His goal list started with get a new sports car this year.

He was thinking about an item, and acquiring this item was itself the goal. Even if not within a year, but within a year and a half or two, he could finally buy the sports car and that is when the disappointment started. The sports car was great, but he couldn’t drive it as much as he wanted. Additionally by the time he got the car, he felt he could have invested the money better, and he didn’t enjoy the car as much as he thought he would.

You set goals as you would write a to do list

A to do list includes activities you plan to deliver in a day, so you define what you would like to achieve on a short term. The activities you plan are usually the ones that can be delivered easily and will not pose much challenge.

You can only achieve your goal by doing something you really don’t fancy

Doing the Ironman triathlon is an impressive goal unless you have hydrophobia, or losing 22 pounds in 2 months can be very challenging if you know you are not ready to leave your favourite foods behind and find alternatives.

You think achieving the goal will sort out your life

While losing weight, or changing your career may bring improvements to your life, hoping it will solve all your problems may cause you disappointment at the end.

Many believe they just need to change their clothes, earn big money, or have cool friends and they will change their lives. Waiting for something to happen just to start something else. This decision makes your life journey more difficult and takes you away from what you really can achieve and what really can bring you success.

You set a goal, because your friend(s) or significant other set the very same goal

Friends can show you a good example inspire you, root for you and be with you in the moments when you need them most. Doing things together is fun and strengthens your relationship, on the other hand your friend’s life is different than yours. His or her desires will be different from yours. Your friend set the goal for him or herself, believing the goal will take him or her forward, not you.

The goal is shiny and fantastic, and it is so far from you as the moon and the stars

Being a billionaire in a year, may sound ambitious and worth sharing at a party. Assuming you have surefire ways to achieve it or you are a genius who gets new revolutionary ideas quite frequently and have the talent to make things happen quickly.

Should your friends not see you this way, your goal will sound as bragging and may damage your relationships. Maybe your friends already know, you like to set big goals, which you abandon later. If that is the case and you are just fed up others not taking you seriously, you might want to change your mind about goal setting.

You can achieve the goal when sleeping, or standing on one leg, singing a song and juggle three apples at the same time

Setting a goal of being promoted this year, when you already know the promotion is on its way is not only naughty, but unhelpful in many ways.

I shared with you the most common mistakes in goal setting, so you may be curious to know the better ways of setting goals.

Let’s start with understanding how setting goals for your life is different. As you are achieving goals you put yourself on a certain track of your choice.

Talking about life path sounds more serious than just setting goals, isn’t it? Your life is very precious and you have the right to make decisions on it. Setting goals are such decisions.

If you asked me whether there are golden rules for goal setting, I would probably hesitate saying there are, because I saw many people successfully set goals in many different ways. However, there are certain guidelines to goal setting, which may help you to be better and more effective, and by more effective I mean you will feel closer to your goals and your sense of achievement will increase.

Set goals that make you feel you are going in a good direction

Setting goals helps you stay focussed and allows you to take and/or increase control over your life. It also will make you more structured and will improve your memory.

Each goal you set may or may not fit in the big picture of your life. Why not choose the ones that fit?

Once you decided the direction for your life, you can start planning the journey. Setting goals is to lay the stepping stones on the road, your goals will take you further in your journey.

Set goals that relate to your priorities and target areas in your life where you identified a gap and will aid your efforts in building your skills and improve your life situation.

Make your goals measurable

Sense of achievement comes when

  • you know what you want to deliver and how your success will look like;
  • also, you have a plan of action
  • finally, you deliver on your plan.

Goals can be defined in different ways, the more specific the definition of your goal is, the closer you may get to accomplishing it. A measurable goal will specify what exactly you want to achieve and by when. Include specific dates, volumes, or rates.

Set goals that motivate you, but don’t make you struggle

Goal achievement requires dedication and to keep progressing your motivational level needs to stay high. To achieve that you need to be convinced you can do what is needed, but delivering it will not be too easy for you either.

When you don’t have this, you risk postponing what you need to do to make the goal a reality or accomplish so easily that the goal will not give you a sense of achievement, leaving you feeling disappointed.

I set my goals in details, and include why I want to achieve the goal, where achieving it will take me and how it will help me in the future. I end up with longer sentences, but it is worth as I can keep my eye on the ball and have a check whether the goal still fits in my bigger picture of life. 

Record you goals and your progress

Writing a list of your goals, recording the deadlines you set for yourself and create a habit of looking at your goals periodically will help you maintain focus.

I personally use an app to record my goals and have a reminder each day, so the goals appear every day in the morning on my phone. This way I start every day by thinking about how much closer would I like to get to achieving my goals and what do I need to do differently if I slowed down.

Make an action plan

Develop a plan of actions in that includes the steps you want to take to achieve your goals. Depending on your preference you can create a detailed plan including every step to take, just consider how much effort will be required to maintain your plan.

A good plan is clear, simple and logical and includes just as much detail, that is necessary for you to understand and remember what the steps mean.

You can write your plan on a paper, develop it in a spreadsheet or in a project planning application, or if you are in a very creative mood you can create a visual representation of your plan.

Make things happen

Even the shiniest plan will sadly sit in the bottom of your drawer, if you don’t act on it. Create a habit of doing something, even a little thing, every single day, that takes you closer to your goal. Check back on your progress and if you slow down find and assess the reasons, and work out solutions.

Difficulties, challenges will always come into your way. Some people will be helpful, others may have priorities conflicting yours. Keep up a positive attitude and build and rely on helpful relationships. If you would like to learn more about building and maintaining helpful relationships click here.

Enjoy and celebrate the progress and small successes even

I am not saying you should throw a party every time when you could raise your workout time by 5 minutes, but remind yourself of the good job you are doing and use the achievement as a building block to the next one. Learn from professionals to make decisions easier.

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5 ways to get helpful feedback

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2-min read

Receiving helpful feedback is useful for career progression in a world where women are taking up challenging responsibilities in professional and regular jobs. 

Getting valuable feedback can help to build your self− confidence in a demanding work environment. What does it take to be confident?

Here are five ways to get helpful feedback to tune you up for success.

Ask for honest feedback in a friendly way

Not many people take honest feedback kindly, and people around you are aware of this. Most people feel it is better to keep their opinion to themselves than poke the beehive for God knows how many stings they will get. But usually, lack of self− confidence and fear of the unknown make people not want to receive honest feedback from colleagues and individuals around them. To get honest feedback, you need to summon up the courage and ask for it but, when doing that, make it less formal; be friendly when asking.

Admit you are not perfect and ask what you can do for the future

Career progression, admittedly, is an important part of our work life, and it is more about what happens in the future than now. However, you will not be able to create your future without acting now.

When asking for feedback, explain why it would be helpful to you if they could tell you what you can do better going forward and that you appreciate them being honest with you and taking the time to share their genuine feeling.

Ask again until they are open to share, but don’t be pushy

The work environment can be sensitive, and everyone is careful not to take the wrong step. This job environment attitude might get in the way of getting helpful feedback. After you asked for honest feedback the first time, listen to it, act on it and don’t hesitate to ask again after a reasonable period of time.

Let people around you know they are welcome to give you their honest feedback without backlash. Show them more self− confidence and readiness to take in their real and friendly view of your activities and solutions.

If you have just given a presentation at a meeting, ask what you could have added to make your presentation better? Try to get a specific answer because, the more specific the feedback is, the easier it is for you to improve your presentation skills.

Call for anonymous feedback

If you are working in an environment where openly providing feedback is not a natural part of the ways of working, you can ask people to drop it anonymously, even as a note, or they can do it using any means possible to get to you. You can ask for an anonymous feedback face to face or in a meeting where the opinions of those who matter are all present.

Create a comfortable environment when listening to feedback

Prepare yourself to be able to listen to the information, learn as much as you can from it and, in the meantime, show that you are interested in hearing more.

Jot down the points when they are talking and don’t interrupt unless there are specific things you would like to see more clearly for the proper understanding of the feedback. You will experience that the person giving you the feedback will also feel more relaxed sharing their opinions with you.

Whatever position you are working in, receiving helpful feedback is a building block to your success, and you cannot afford to let it slip off your fingers. If you want to get positive feedback, check these 5 Ways how you can use relaxation and visualisation to help advance your career.

 

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Is glass-half-full way of thinking hardwired in us?

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I read an article a couple of years ago about research. that found biological evidence which proved there are negative and positive people in the world. It sounded interesting.  At least I found it interesting because I have always believed that I have a choice. Even following a positive or a negative mindset. Learn how glass-half-full way of thinking can help you.

A study performed in the Michigan State University, involving 71 women. Some participants of the survey struggled to put a positive spin on difficult situations which they had to observe. The participants of the study looked at various photos and provide their opinion about a potential outcome of a situation they saw in the picture.

As much as I find the results interesting, I still like to think that I have a choice. Even though some people might find it more difficult to view certain situations in a favourable light, adopting a positive attitude is possible.

Of course, I am not saying we should convince ourselves that whatever happens in our lives is positive and beneficial to us. However, I believe that being a glass-half-full person is in fact rewarding.

Let me share with you a couple of reasons why glass-half-full way of thinking is helpful:

  • Expecting a positive outcome and good things to come will lead you to take actions. That result in progress and more often than not in positive outcomes unless your positivity is somewhat naivety or irresponsible behaviour.
  • Expecting negative results or that bad things will come your way will slow you down. Or even worse will keep you from taking steps, and you will deny yourself of the steps that might have helped you prevent or reduce the adverse outcome you feared.
  • I often say that where a pessimist sees a problem. I find an opportunity. Have you seen anyone solving a problem by complaining about it? I haven’t.
  • Expecting positive things to happen is also helpful with closing the gap between where you are now. Even if you are struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel, and where your desired destination is. With the positive mindset, you will take the courage to step outside your comfort zone and do something you found challenging before. It is undeniably an excellent way to stretch yourself because it builds self-confidence in a specific field and improves your overall self-esteem.

Problem-solving is a creative process, and while it requires us to think about the problem itself. It also includes an analysis of the problem which then leads to solutions; given we are dissatisfied with the current way of doing things.

Some would argue that willingness to solve a particular problem also depends on the level of dissatisfaction and discomfort with the problem we are trying to solve, and I somewhat agree with that opinion. But beyond the willingness, being able to reframe the situation and view it from a different angle is as much important. To get more proof of it, read The psychology of positive thinking.

If you change the way you look at your situation, and the challenges in it, not only your view will change but the problem itself. Your mind will suddenly shed light on a rich array of opportunities to discover inner resources, ways to grow. Comment below if the glass-half-full way of thinking is the way how you approach problems.

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4 Decision-making techniques professionals use in business

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When you own or run a business, no matter the size, you are required and trusted to make the best decisions for your team.

It is critical for business owners and managers to understand the impact and importance of each decision they make. As results of a wrong or right choice can affect the entire business. It is significant that business owners continue to improve and update their decision-making skill set. Most of the time, the basics of decision making are the same. However, there are new techniques evolving every day having an impact on making significant decisions for your company. Below we have outlined the 4 “C’s” to help you remember and understand the decision-making techniques. Professionals use these techniques in businesses just like yours!

Collaborative Technique

Also known as group decision making, collaborative decision making is a decision-making technique that works precisely the way it sounds. Decisions are discussed and weighed by a group of people. These people, most often your employees, are chosen either at random or are compiled based on their experiences and knowledge in the company. This method of decision making is one of the most impactful ways to decide, but it is also the most time-consuming.

Consensus Technique

Consensus decision making technique helps managers and owners decide based on votes. Managers gather employees and tally votes. The decision with the most votes from the staff wins! This technique makes employee morale higher and makes everyone feel like part of a team. While this method is most impactful for the workers, it may not always come out in the best favour of the company. The consensus technique is best used when paired with another technique, such as collaborative or convenience.

Command Technique

One of the more common techniques, command, is where leaders make decisions without talking with higher managers or their teams when deciding. This style is standard and often speeds up the decision-making process. Often, this technique works best when you must make a quick, time-sensitive decision.

Convenience Technique

Also considered a “hands-off” approach to decision making, it can be one of the hardest for business owners and managers. Delegating and trusting another person to make the best decision for your company may daunt and stressful. However, this decision-making technique also opens up perspectives you had not looked at before. Handing over a decision to someone else on operational matters can empower your team while clearing up time on your schedule. The convenience technique is one of the most difficult, yet impactful and rewarding ways to decide.

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